My friend Suha offered me a tip on battling negativity and it got me thinking.
One of my most persistent thoughts — you are not good enough — could easily lead me down a vicious negative spiral of thoughts.
The single thought could colour the rest of my day or week.
Track down the source of your thoughts.
“Your emotions are usually induced by a thought,” wrote Suha. “Influence your emotions by tracking back to its source and countering that thought by working through it.”
It struck me that a majority of my thoughts weren’t my own. Growing up, I wanted to do something, I did it. I taught myself how to code and design.
I didn’t pause to consider whether I was good enough.
As an adult, I was informed that I was in fact, not good enough repeatedly until I caved in and believed it.
Allow people to form opinions about you.
Today, I was casually reminded I was a perfectionist. It’s why I set high standards for myself. It’s why I never get anything done. And it’s ingrained in my DNA, which is why I will always be miserable.
In the past, I would have retaliated. Today, I took it.
I don’t have to agree with anyone who offers personal attacks as criticism. I can improve what I can, with the help of my unwavering support system.
Pause whenever you’re feeling negative.
Identify the root of why you feel the way you. Journaling or talking to a friend can be helpful.
The most important thing is to be aware of your thoughts, and to reexamine what you truly believe about yourself.